1.
You
don't have to be the most attractive person in the room
2. Make people feel like they're the most
intelligent, impressive and fascinating person in the room
3.
To make
someone feel as if they're the only person that matters, do these three things
during conversations:
a. Lower the intonation of your voice at the
end of sentences.
b. Reduce how quickly and often you nod.
c. Pause for two full seconds before speaking
4.
Your
presence should always be present
5.
Think
of something pleasant so you appear to be sincere
6. To appear more open and inviting, rise if
you're sitting to be similar heights and keep your hands out of you pockets
when you shake someone's hand
7. Make sure you have the right handshake
8. Become an excellent listener by deliberately
pausing and asking question
9. Choose your seat carefully around a table
10. Don't compare yourself to others
11. Combine your power with warmth to create a
full, charismatic package
12. Don't let self-doubt affect your persona
13. Recognize what the problems are and fix
them. For example, if you're wearing clothes that are too tight, it will
physically show that you're uncomfortable, but your companions will think you
appear disengaged and untruthful
14. When you're dealing with a difficult group
of people, divide them up, then conquer
15. Make time to warm-up before a big event
16.
Intentionally
put yourself in uncomfortable situations so that you can deal with internal
discomfort more effectively
17.
Know
that there are different charisma styles
a. Focus. This style is based on the perception
of presence. Adopt this when you want people to feel like they're the only ones
in the room with you
b. Visionary. This kind of style makes other
people feel inspired and appearance matters far less than with any other style.
c. Kindness. This kind of charisma comes from
body language and is based mostly on warmth. However, if you don't combine this
with some authoritative skills, you'll come off as too overeager to please.
d.
Authority. This
is the most powerful charisma style of them all and those who acquire it are
not likeable all the time. We evaluate this power through four indicators: body
language, appearance, title and reactions of others.
